Forgiving Yourself and Others

forgivenessHave you struggled with forgiving someone, who has hurt you or abused you? Do you find yourself thinking about it a lot lately? If so, this is normal to feel, whenever someone you trust has intentionally hurt you. However, you must find a way to give your hurt and pain to the Lord, for he will release you from the burden of guilt. Additionally, he will help you learn how to forgive those, who have victimized you or someone you love.

The first memory verse is: Acts 3:19…“Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord.” (KJV)

As you recite this verse, remember that you must confess all of your sins against God and others. Once you ask him to forgive you for all of your sins, he is just and will erase all of your sins immediately. For we must spend time, learning exactly what forgiveness truly is, because it can hinder your spiritual growth. Honestly, forgiveness is ceasing to be angry over the unacceptable behaviors that someone has done to you.

By forgiving someone, you are not giving them your permission to repeat the behaviors that hurt you. Instead, you should recognize the feelings that you felt at the moment that they hurt you. Be honest and ask for the forgiveness of others, once you have evaluated your role in the entire situation. This way, you can free yourself from the power that a person has over you when you hold a grudge.

            The second memory verse is 1 John 1:9…“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (KJV)

Recite this verse, as you begin your transitional journey from being a victim to becoming a survivor. No matter what has happened in the past, you can fully overcome its negative effect on your life by trusting in God. Never allow the pain or anguish over their behaviors and actions to cause you bitterness. If this person continues to offend you, then you may want to step back and evaluate your relationship with this person.

No longer will you feel overwhelmed or angry, instead you will find peace that passes all understanding. In that moment, you will feel the burden of your own guilt start melt away, as the pain and anguish begins to disappear. As you become a new creature in Christ, you will learn how to modify your own behaviors and reactions to someone hurting you. Trust in Jesus and forgive those who hurt you, because you will take away any power that they have over you.