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Why “You Don’t Look Disabled” Is Not a Compliment
“You don’t look disabled.” The words are often spoken with surprise. Sometimes, they are even offered as reassurance—as though not appearing disabled should make someone feel better. But for many people living with disabilities, this statement is not comforting. It can feel dismissive, intrusive, and painfully invalidating. Disability does not have one appearance. It does…
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When a Disabled Person Asks for Help, Choose Compassion—Not Judgment
When a disabled person asks for help, do not be rude. Do not call them lazy. Do not accuse them of making excuses. Do not say they are not trying hard enough. You may be witnessing the moment when someone has reached the edge of what their body can safely manage. Asking for help may…
