By Princess Crystal| PrincessCrystalSays.com
Healing after trauma isn’t a straight line—it’s a winding road full of twists, setbacks, and moments of profound transformation. It’s not always pretty. It’s not always fast. And it rarely looks like what people expect. But it is possible. And most importantly, it is yours—your process, your timing, your truth.
I want to talk about the side of healing that people don’t always share. The truth that healing doesn’t mean going back to who you were before the pain. It means learning how to carry it, how to grow through it, and how to become someone even stronger than you were before.
Healing Is Not Linear
One day, you might feel strong and hopeful. The next, a memory might knock the wind out of you. And that’s okay. Healing doesn’t mean the pain vanishes—it means you’re learning to live with it without letting it define you.
Give yourself permission to spiral sometimes.
Give yourself permission to pause.
Give yourself grace.
It doesn’t mean you’re failing; it means you’re human.
You May Grieve Who You Were
Trauma changes us. Whether it’s from illness, abuse, loss, or a combination of battles—it reshapes your sense of safety, trust, and even your identity.
It’s okay to grieve the version of you who existed before the pain. That grief is valid. But healing begins when we realize that who we are becoming is also worthy of love, respect, and peace.
Not Everyone Will Understand
One of the hardest parts of healing is the loneliness. Some people in your life may not understand what you’re going through. They may minimize your pain or urge you to “move on.”
You don’t have to shrink yourself to make others comfortable. Surround yourself with people who honor your journey and speak life into your healing. And if you haven’t found them yet, you’re not alone—spaces like Dragon Strong Circle are built for this very reason.
Rest Is A Part Of The Process
In a world that glorifies “pushing through,” I want you to know that rest is not laziness—it is a sacred part of healing. You don’t need to prove your strength through constant movement. Sometimes, strength is found in stillness.
So, if today all you can do is breathe, cry, or simply survive, that is more than enough.
You Are Not Broken
You are not damaged. You are not weak. You are not “too much.” You are a survivor. Every scar tells a story of someone who endured and still showed up.
Healing is not about erasing the scars. It’s about learning how to live with them, to honor them, and to let them remind you that you made it—and you’re still making it.
What Healing Looks Like For Me
As someone who has lived through trauma—both physical and emotional—my healing has not been perfect. It’s been painful, slow, and at times, full of doubt. But it has also been holy.
I’ve found healing in writing, in faith, in the quiet comfort of my dog’s company, and in communities that see me. I’ve found healing in crying until I couldn’t anymore, and then in laughing when I least expected to.
And I’ve learned that healing doesn’t mean becoming someone new—it means returning to yourself, piece by piece, day by day.
A Final Word For You
If you’re walking through healing right now, I want you to know: you are doing better than you think. You are allowed to take your time. You are allowed to ask for help. You are allowed to be proud of how far you’ve come—even if it doesn’t look like much to the outside world.
Healing after trauma is not about perfection—it’s about resilience. It’s about showing up, again and again, for yourself.
And I see you. I believe in you. You are Dragon Strong.
🩷 If this spoke to your heart, leave a comment, share with someone who needs it, or join my support community at Dragon Strong Circle. Let’s heal—together.
Respectfully yours,
Crystal Amon
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