Recognizing the Signs of Domestic Violence and Abuse

Domestic violence doesn’t always leave bruises. While physical abuse is often easier to recognize, emotional, verbal, and psychological abuse can be just as damaging—yet far more difficult to detect. Whether you’re concerned for yourself or someone you care about, understanding the signs of domestic violence is the first step toward safety and healing.

What Is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior used by one person to gain or maintain power and control over another in an intimate relationship. This can include spouses, partners, family members, or even roommates. Abuse can be physical, emotional, sexual, financial, or psychological.

Common Signs of Abuse

Here are some of the most common red flags that may indicate someone is experiencing domestic violence:

1. Physical Abuse

Unexplained bruises, cuts, or injuries Frequent “accidents” or visits to the hospital Wearing long sleeves or sunglasses indoors to cover injuries Flinching at sudden movements

2. Emotional and Verbal Abuse

Being constantly criticized or insulted Being blamed for everything that goes wrong Being humiliated in front of others Feeling worthless, anxious, or like you’re “walking on eggshells”

3. Isolation

Partner controls who you see, where you go, or what you do Being cut off from friends, family, or support systems Partner monitors your phone, social media, or emails

4. Control and Intimidation

Extreme jealousy or possessiveness Threats of harm to you, loved ones, pets, or themselves Destroying your belongings or property Controlling all the money or preventing you from working

5. Sexual Abuse

Being forced to engage in sexual activity against your will Being pressured into sex when you’re not comfortable Being made to feel guilty or obligated to perform sexual acts

Subtle Signs That Are Often Overlooked

Sometimes abuse doesn’t look like yelling or hitting. It can be:

A partner who makes every decision without your input Constant “jokes” at your expense that cut deep Gaslighting—making you question your memory or sanity Guilt-tripping you into staying or keeping quiet

What to Do If You Suspect Abuse

If you or someone you know may be experiencing domestic violence, it’s important to reach out for help. Here are some steps to consider:

Talk to someone you trust—a friend, therapist, or advocate. Contact a local domestic violence shelter or hotline. Make a safety plan, especially if you’re considering leaving. Remember: abuse is never your fault.

You’re Not Alone

No one deserves to be abused. Everyone deserves to feel safe, respected, and valued in their relationships. Recognizing the signs is a powerful first step—speaking up and seeking support can be life-changing.

If you’re in the U.S. and need immediate help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text “START” to 88788.

Copyright 2025

Crystal Amon