By Princess Crystal of
There’s no hurt quite like church hurt—the kind that doesn’t just bruise your heart, but shakes your spirit.
When people who claim to speak for God end up wounding you, it can leave you feeling betrayed, confused, and even ashamed for trusting in the first place.
I’ve been there.
Maybe you have too.
When Religion Hurts More Than It Heals
It’s one thing to struggle with life’s challenges—but it’s another thing entirely when the pain comes from people who are supposed to love you like Jesus does.
Sometimes it’s judgment.
Sometimes it’s gossip.
Sometimes it’s rejection, silence, or spiritual manipulation.
No matter what form it takes, it all feels the same in the end: like you don’t belong. Like you’re not good enough. Like God must feel the same way they do.
But let me say this with all the love I can:
God is not like them.
Faith Isn’t Supposed to Hurt Like That
Jesus never turned people away because they were messy, struggling, or different.
He ran to the hurting. He sat with the outcasts. He called out the self-righteous.
If someone made you feel small, unworthy, or unwanted in the name of religion—they were out of alignment with the heart of God.
You didn’t deserve that.
You’re not alone.
And healing is possible.
Taking the First Steps Toward Healing
Here’s what’s helped me move forward:
Admit the pain. Don’t pretend it didn’t hurt. Give yourself space to grieve it. Your feelings are valid. Separate God from people. People fail. God doesn’t. Don’t let flawed humans keep you from a perfect Savior. Redefine your faith. Strip it down to the truth: God loves you. Period. No performance needed. Find safe spaces. Not all churches or Christians are the same. Find people who lead with love, not judgment. Let the Holy Spirit guide you. Healing takes time, and you don’t have to rush it. The Holy Spirit is gentle and will never force you—He walks with you, at your pace.
You’re Not Damaged—You’re Growing
If you’ve been hurt by religious people, know this:
You’re not broken. You’re becoming wiser, deeper, and more discerning.
God still wants you. He never stopped.
The enemy would love for you to give up on faith altogether. But there’s freedom and joy on the other side of the pain—and you deserve to find it.
You are loved.
You are worthy.
And your story doesn’t end with the hurt—it begins with the healing.
Let God show you who He really is—because He’s nothing like the ones who misrepresented Him.
Copyright 2025
Crystal Amon
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