What is Domestic Abuse?

Domestic violence is a serious issue that affects many people in our communities. It can happen to anyone, regardless of age, gender, race or sexual orientation. It is important to know the signs of domestic violence and how to get help. Knowing what the signs of abuse are can actually help victims recognize what is happening and they may ask for help, especially when children are involved. Don’t spend another day being a victim of abuse, instead tell someone you trust and make an immediate plan to leave. 

What is Domestic Abuse

First, let’s define domestic abuse and the characteristics that a partner may use on you. The abuser can be male or female, because domestic violence is a pattern of behavior that one person uses to control another person. It can be physical, sexual, emotional, or financial abuse. Domestic violence is not just about hitting or yelling. It can also be about controlling what someone does and who they see on a day to day basis. It can also be about controlling someone’s access to money, telling them what they can and cannot wear, or preventing them from seeing friends and family members. The abuser generally will tell the victim how to act in public, even around loved ones and friends. 

How Does it Affect Children

Second, many children who grow up in homes where there is domestic violence are more likely to become abusers themselves when they grow up. Even if the children are not being abused, they will most grow up to abuse their partner. Yet, children who are being abused need help in becoming free from the abuser. Sadly, children in abusive homes depend on their mother or father, who is a victim as well, to protect them. There is only one true way to stop being the victim and to protect your children, which is by leaving the abuser. However, many children end up dying due to domestic abuse, so it’s important for victims to get help. 

What Kind of Help?

Victims don’t have to live with the abuse and there are things they can do to stop it from happening again. Call the police, but be prepared to leave before the abuser returns. Pack only the essentials and ask family and friends for help. This may be hard, but do not allow one more moment of control or abuse. Dig down deep and look around in your local communities for places that help domestic violence victims, but don’t expect things to be normal at first. However, to truly become free of their abuser, a victim must recognize they are being abused and be strong enough to walk away with both most times. Then, they must work to become independent on their own and with the help of the local resources which they are given. Family and friends may help, but the victim must be sure it’s a safe and secure environment as well.

Thanks for stopping by, 

Crystal S. Amon 

Copyrighted 2022